"It is a mistake if you believe it is a mistake"
Defining A Mistake
A mistake is defined here as creating an undesirable/unintentional/wrong result.
There are many situations in which we can make mistakes: We can make mistakes when taking an exam, we can make mistakes when we communicate, we can make mistakes at home or at the work place and so forth.
This article will look at the ways in which we can reduce the chances of making mistakes at the same time addressing the suffering state of mind in relation to making mistakes.
Mistakes In Depth
First, let us look at mistakes on the surface level by understanding the steps we can take to reduce the number of mistakes we make daily.
First we understand that when we act from a mind that is in chaos or lacking clarity, i.e. when we are in angry, or clouded with wandering thoughts, or when the mind is fatigued, then the chances of making mistakes will increase.
Thus by having a clearer mind through resting our minds more through doing less in the day, resting mor it can greatly help us in regaining back peace and clarity. The practice of meditation and yoga can also help to strengthen our mind and help us to develop the strength to center ourselves when our minds are in chaos.
The Negativity Experienced When Making Mistakes
Now let us look at the Negative Reactions we can experience when we make mistakes and the ways to address them.
Some of us can forgive ourselves when we make a mistake or when other people make mistakes. But there are the rest of us who can be highly critical and never forgive ourselves or others when a mistake is made.
To help us address the Negative Reactions we can experience when making mistakes, we can begin by first understanding what a mistake is to the consciousness.
To the consciousness, a mistake is a perpceptual thing.
Let us take the following scenario as an example where a man, out of honesty tells his boss that his management skills are not good.
From one perspective, one may think it's a mistake for an employee to have said something unrespectable to the boss, whilst from another perspective one may think it's correct to be honest and give Ideas to the boss on ways things can be improved around the work place.
Thus what a mistake really is will always come down to the ideas of right and wrong that we carry.
And it is at this level of the mind that we need to address at a deeper level - that is to transform the negative ideas we have about ourselves.
Path Of Creator
Mistakes In Relation To The Path Of Creator
The journey begins first with the understanding that right and wrong is a perceptual thing
When our perception of right and wrong are driven by our sufferings i.e. fears, then we can experience negative states of the mind when we make a mistake.
This happens when we have attachments to the Ideas of right and wrong. When we become attached to these ideas we can end up fearing of doing the "wrong things."
Our fears of making mistakes can surface during childhood through the ideas of right and wrong dealt to us in the form of punishments from our parents, or later by the teachers at school, our friends and our loved ones and so forth.
The journey will thus involve discovering the deeper causes of our attachment to the ideas of right and wrong. After all, ideas of right and wrong is different from individual to individual, so what has made us become attached to these ideas? Such the journey will involve a lot of self-discovery.
Throughout the journey we will alsoaccumulate the wisdom that we can never predict the outcome or how other people will perceive us when we do a particular thing. So when a mistake happens, the only choice is to either be unhappy through Self-Rejection or be happy through Self-Acceptance.
The destination is towards the greater acceptance of ourselves and each other.
Let us look at some Negative Ideas that can promote the fear of making a mistake.
At The Idea Level
One may discover the following ideas in their journey towards self-discovery.
"It is not ok to make a mistake"
For the mind which carries the negative declaration, the person will tend to hold great fears in making a mistake. When one is extremely fearful of making a mistake one will may not even take any action at all in life that may involve “risks.”
The transition towards the positive declaration - "It is ok to be make a mistake" begins when one realizes that the fear of making mistakes is there because of a lack of trust and support one has towards oneself.
When one has a lack of love inwards one often will try to fill it by seeking love outwards, and this can increase the fear of not being accepted by others if one makes a mistake.
The wisdom here is to realize that we can only act through how much we know in the present moment, thus no matter what we do we are bound to make mistakes if there are people who know better way of doing things, or if something happens that we do not have control of. Thus the only thing we can be is to simply do our best in the moment and whatever comes will come. The importance is to develop Self-Acceptance in whatever situation we end up in
The journey will thus be challenging, because in order to know the best way of doing things will involve the journey of making many "mistakes." Individuals who have ideas of a "Perfect Self" will be afraid of making mistakes thus such individuals can end up becoming attached to specific ideas and resistant to new ideas / refusing to change.
To accelerate one's journey one will have to direct Acceptance both ways - to forgive not only oneself for making mistakes but also others. This is because when we continue to condemn others for making mistakes we will only create the fear of being judged by others in the same way - in turn this will only sustains the fears we carry.
Develop Experienced Knowledge
Whenever you feel indecisive about making a decision in fear of making a mistake, you can simply make it and observe any negativities that may surface to develop the Knowing of The Self.
The Creator's MeditationLink here
Often when we do things in meditation such as “wandering off into our minds” or when we “move our postures too much” or when we end the meditation session earlier than we planned, we can subconsciously blame ourselves and as a result creating even more suffering in the practice.
Thus observe for any negativities/suffering sensations throughout the body when one has made a “mistake” and observing it with a Still Mind without distortion - this is how we develop Acceptance / Forgiveness / Compassion at the Idea Level of the consciousness.
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