"Confidence is an state of believing in yourself."
Confidence is about having Self-Belief in your ideas and your actions. See Catalyst - Support for deeper insight into Confidence.
Confidence In Depth
Confidence is a State of Mind.
Thus realize the difference between "appearing confident" on the outside and "being confident" on the inside. It is important to understand this difference so that one can put more work on developing confidence from the inside. This is because once we have confidence within, then the appearance will naturally follow.
Importance Of Addressing Issues With Confidence
When we lack self-confidence it can greatly create internal blockages in relation to the ways we express ourselves and in our ability to be unique and creative.
Do you often find yourself holding back your opinions in fears that people would laugh at it?
When we lack Self-Belief, we can carry the negative belief that we will fail in achieving our dreams. This can hold us back from achieving our deeper purpose in life.
Do you often find yourself believing that you will succeed or believing that you will fail?
It is important to address any issues of Self-Confidence if one wishes to live a more fulfilling life. The primary drive behind the state of un-confidence will always be some sort of fears to do with self-judgement – i.e. fears of failing, fears of being wrong, fears, fears of being rejected. So it is important to take the step to address the issues of un-confidence to uncover one’s deeper fears.
Path Of Creator
Confidence In Relation To The Path Of Creator
Confidence does not come with just a click of a finger. Developing Confidence is a journey, because it is a journey of developing Self-Belief. Thus the greater work is to become more confident than the day before rather than reaching a point of confidence.
We can develop confidence simply by facing challenging experiences with a positive attitude. Confidence is developed when we "attempt" to support ourselves and "believe" in ourselves when we are faced with a challenging experience. This is how confidence is slowly developed through time. So it is not being "successful" at what we do, but rather to have the confidence, or more specifically, to attempt to have self-belief that we will "suceed" when we are faced with a challenge. It is important to become aware of this difference, otherwise we can end up not taking a step forward in the fear of "failing" in being successful at what we do.
So if we go through life facing each experience with doubt then no confidence will be developed. So the way is to step forward into the darkness to illuminate it.
But to directly address issues to do with confidence we need to look into the cause of why there was a lack confidence in the first place. And this will take us to explore the deeper cause which are our Sufferings - in particular our fears.
And as the Seed Cause of all sufferings will always recede back to Negative Ideas let us look at the issues of confidence at the level of Negative Ideas.
At The Idea Level
The general theme of the related Negative Ideas will usually be those which promote Self-Criticism.
“It is not ok to be wrong”
“It is not ok to fail”
“It is not ok to be rejected”
“It is not ok to be unique”
And so forth
Let us look at a Negative Idea to understand a bit more.
“It is not ok to be arrogant”
For the mind which carries such Negative Declaration, one would have sustained the negative declaration out of the fear that one would become rejected if one were to be arrogant – and this Negative Idea can also be fuelled by rejecting others when when they are arrogant.
To release, realize that one has the divine right to be oneself no matter how strange or unique one is. There is nothing wrong with being arrogant or “appearing arrogant.” The focus here is in developing Self-Belief.
It is important to release and transform this Negative Idea because by believing that it is not ok to be arrogant, one can stagnate on their journey of Self-Confidence.
Develop Experienced Knowledge
Behind the lack of confidence there will always be some sort of fear driving it.
Simply question yourself each time you experience the issues of confidence to develop the Knowing of The Self even deeper.
“What are my fears behind this experience?”
The Creator's MeditationLink here
Use the practice of meditation to develop confidence. In the practice of meditation when you encounter moments of self-doubt, simply observe it as is with a Still Mind rather than to engage it, to diminish it, or to try to exaggerate it. The state of self-doubt can be experienced in the meditation for instance when one encounters wandering thoughts to do with self-doubt, or when one feels one cannot complete the meditation session etc.
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