Giving And Receiving
"Receiving A Gift Can Worth As Much As Giving A Gift To Others"
Defining Giving And Receiving
We can experience joy when we receive a present from someone.
We can also experience joy when we give a present to someone.
It is natural to experience happiness when we are loved, and also to experience happiness when we love others. This is because to the deeper Mind there is really no difference in these two situations - as to the deeper Mind there exists only One Self- so All is The Self.
However, when there are negativities in the Mind, the experience of giving and receiving can become a Negative one. This is when one can become disconnected from that Truth within.
This article will address the Negative side of giving and receiving.
Giving And Receiving In Depth
There is much happiness to be experienced with giving and receiving as the desire to love and to be loved is deeply inherent in everyone.
However such experiences can become negative when there are unaddressed Negativities happening within the depths of the Mind.
For instance, our fears can drive us to create attachment and expectations towards others. It can make us fear being judged when we give out love, and can make us judge others or ourselves when we receive love.
So when there are unresolved negativities within the mind, one will not be able to experience the natural happiness that comes with giving and receiving.
Importance Of Addressing Giving And Receiving
When we do not address the issues of giving and receiving then we can miss the out on the opportunities to experience the happiness of such acts.
It can also make us uneasy and uncomfortable with dealing with people in situations such as going to parties, paying for dinner, organizing events together, asking for help from others etc.
One can also feel as if one is either giving too much or receiving too little and vice versa.
As the acts of giving / receiving are one of the primary drives for a relationship to deepen, it will be difficult for one to develop deeper connections with the people around them if one fails to address the deeper issues within the consciousness.
It is only when one can give and receive in happiness that one can be truly happy.
Path Of Creator
Giving And Receiving In Relation To The Path Of Creator
The journey begins first with understanding the Cause of the Suffering States Of Mind that one can experience in situations of giving and receiving.
Realize that the experiences of giving and receiving will always be a positive one when the mind is in a state of Stillness - i.e. when we give and receive unconditionally without any expectations.
Thus it is only when we impose conditions over what Love should be that we will begin to experience Suffering, and what drives the quality of Love downhill in this way are the fears and negativities that we carry. And these behind these fears are the Negative Ideas of Right And Wrong that we have become attached to.
The journey of releasing our Negativities will take us to accumulate wisdom from many experiences, the most beneficial ones being ones when our ideas of What Love Is becomes challenged.
These experiences will push us to come into a balance with the way in which we Direct Love. When the direction of Love is balanced then no Suffering will be experienced when giving and receiving.
See Catalyst-Love Direction
An example of such experiences which can help a Self to balance the excessive giving of love outwards are experiences which teache one to not give more than one already has and usually it will take a lot of repeats of these experiences for the Self to learn from them. These situations will usually involve demanding people taking up too much of one's time until one has no time for oneself to do the things one wants.
Realize that Love is not refined by just simply Loving the same way that one has done many times before.
Love is rather refined through the accumulation of Wisdom from life experiences so that one can refine the Knowing of what Love is. So it is important to learn from life experiences if one wishes to refine their Knowing and balance the direction of Love.
The destination is towards a balance of giving and receiving – to Love with Wisdom.
As the Seed Cause of all forms of Sufferings will recede to Negative Ideas, let us look at a possible Negative Idea which can drive one towards a Negative Experiences.
At The Idea Level
A Possible Negative Mental Declaration
"It is not ok to receive compliments. "
--->I reject myself and others when I receive compliments.
= There will be fear when I receive compliments because it is not ok.
For the mind which carries the negative declaration, the person will tend to feel uneasy when receiving attention or a compliment. Perhaps because there is a fear that people might think that we've done something purely out of seeking attention. Perhaps deep down, it's because we don't feel that we deserve love or praise and so forth. It will take one to go on an inward journey to discover the cause of the Confusion within their deeper mind complex.
The journey of developing Self-Acceptance is about transforming the Negative Idea from "It is not ok to receive compliments" -> "It is ok to receive compliments"
The transition towards the positive declaration begins when one realizes that there is love in receiving as much as giving. This can be the realization that when we receive compliments with open arms, we are also treasuring other people's opinions. The transition can also happen when one begins to value one's own worth more and more.
For the mind which carries the positive declaration, one will be able to freely receive compliments and not mind the limelight when it is turned towards them. One can also choose to freely turn away from the limelight when they prefer to dwell in darkness.
The journey is balanced through moving also towards the opposite declaration
"It is ok to not receive compliments"
Develop Experienced Knowledge
Become aware of the level/quality of happiness experienced each time you receive a gift/compliment from someone, or each time you give a gift/compliment to someone to develop the awareness of whether or not there are Negative Ideas behind the experiences.
The Creator's Meditation / VipassanaLink here
The Creator's Meditation is a practice where we devote the time to know ourselves. Thus it is a practice where we focus on ourselves. To balance this, at the end of the meditation we can send love outwards to the outer world, whether it is to forgive the people that has angered us or to send gratitude towards people who have helped us. You can do this at the mental level for a few minutes before ending the practice.
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