"Commit Until It Is No Longer A Commitment"
Commitment can be defined as the act of staying in a relationship for a period of time. But relationship can actually be defined as being of various kinds i.e. having a relationship with someone, having a relationship with one’s goal in life, having a relationship with one’s job, having a relationship with a promise and so forth.
There are some people who can easily commit and there are some of us who cannot. For instance, some of us can commit in a relationship for long periods of time whilst others will leave a relationship as soon as one experiences some form of unpleasantness i.e. maybe when the person we have a relationship with has no more money, or are no longer attractive, or maybe when the job we have a relationship with becomes boring, or when the healthy diet, exercise that we promised to keep doing becomes too challenging for us.
This article looks at the ways in which we can use commitment as a Catalyst to accelerate the transformation of our Sufferings.
Commitment In Depth
The act of commitment is an action which can be seen with the eyes.
But as one looks deeper into what commitment means to the mind one will begin to understand that commitment is less about the action but more about the State of Mind in which one carries as one does the action.
Let us observe the differences between the two.
For instance, one can come to the belief that a person is committed to his job just because he has been in that job for a number of years. But it is by looking into the person’s state of mind that we can really discover whether or not that person is committed or not – i.e. that person may always be thinking about finding other jobs or even has already applied for a few but simply has had no success.
Realize that to the deeper mind, commitment is a state of contentment towards what one already has. Thus if that person was truly committed to his job that person would be at peace with what he/she already and would not even be thinking about alternatives out of the rejection towards his job.
Remember again that commitment is not so much about the act but rather the state of mind. Thus it is about the state of being happy with all relationships that one already has rather than rejecting them and trying to find the means of escaping them.
When one tries to understand commitment on the surface as an action one can easily become confused when one asks the following question
“How long to commit?”
Clarity will come back as soon as one realizes again that commitment is a state of mind rather than an action. How long one chooses to commit and display it on the surface will always be up to one’s own choice. The focus here is to reach a state of commitment in every relationship that one is in every moment – in the moments of being and also in the moments of leaving a relationship towards a new one.
Commitment thus can be said about the act of trying to be in a relationship without the state of suffering.
Importance Of Addressing Commitment
Commitment can only be developed when one has the intention to develop and work on it.
For some the intention to address the issues to do with commitment will be difficult to develop because one can find the topic confusing and difficult to understand because people will often end their commitments to something as soon as they find unpleasantness within the experience. Thus to them it may be hard to fanthom as to why one needs to commit to a relationship that is generating suffering.
The focus here is not to commit to something for the sake of Suffering. But to simply to understand that through commitment, one can develop deeper insights into their Sufferings.
For instance, one can commit to their goal of starting a new business. And through that journey, fears of it failing, of being judged, themes of impatience etc can surface for The Self to develop the deeper Knowing of them.
Thus commitment is not about sticking to a relationship to simply suffer. It is about realizing that when we commit ourselves to something and staying in the relationship without running away it allows us to descend deeper into The Self – to develop the Knowing of the deeper causes of one’s sufferings.
A lack of commitment in general can also generate much Suffering so it is important to address any issues to do with a lack of commitment.
For instance, we can start something but move onto something else before it ends. In such a state we can easily become ungrounded and our mind can become stimulated thinking about all other alternatives to the relationships we can have. This can make it hard for one to enjoy what we currently have and be grateful towards the Present Moment.
A lack of commitment can also make us avoid doing things that take a long time because when we do them we can experience a great deal of suffering.
Path Of Creator
Commitment In Relation To The Path Of Creator
The Path Of Creator is about releasing and transforming one’s sufferings.
Sufferings are all forms of negativities, i.e. one’s fears, one’s impatience, one’s doubts, one’s judgements and so forth.
When the mind is in a happy and peaceful state, the mind is without suffering. And as a result, one will naturally be in a state of commitment towards the Present Moment.
Thus the issues of commitment is naturally addressed as one works on transforming and releasing one’s sufferings.
If one were to observe the state of mind when one is in a state of un-commitment, one will discover that behind it are our Sufferings.
I.e. Perhaps it’s anger which has made one decide to leave the relationship,
Perhaps it’s self-doubt which has made one stop one’s business project half way.
Perhaps it’s one’s impatience that has made one quit an exercise program.
Realize that when we allow our minds to convince us to run away each time we experience suffering, we are actually running away from the opportunity to address our Sufferings and to develop the Knowing Of The Self even deeper. And the more we do this the more we will develop the habit of running away each time we face a problem rather than to address it. Developing the state of commitment will help us face the problem face to face and help us develop inner clarity – of developing the ability to discern whether our choices of leaving a suffering relationship is out of wisdom or out of the unwillingness to face our own negativities.
Commitment thus is a great catalyst for The Self to us to accelerate one’s Knowing of one’s Sufferings.
And to practice it, one can simply try to commit at all levels with one’s own relationship – to commit at the physical level, to commit at the mental level, and to commit at the emotional level.
Again, how long one will commit at the physical level will always be out of one’s choice. Remember that the focus is in developing the "state" of commitment. But also through the "acts" of commitment at the physical level can also help to facilitate the process.
There are all sorts of things we can commit in life i.e. our relationships with our job, with a person, task, goals, routines and so forth. Realize that the more challenging the commitment is the more potential there will be for growth, provided that one can develop a Still state of Mind throughout the process. The practice of meditation thus will be beneficial to aid one’s journey to develop commitment.
The journey of commitment at all levels will bring out and uncover all hidden fears and negativities. And no doubt, on our journey to develop commitment our mind and emotions will try their best to beak our ability to commit. This is when there is a great opportunity to develop Self-Knowing.
The Seed Cause of all forms of Sufferings will all recede back to One Cause which is the lack of Self-Acceptance. The main themes in which one will find throughout the journey of commitment are the fears of failing or the fear of doing something wrong, specifically the themes of impatience and doubt and judgement.
Power Over The Mind
Commitment is also about developing the power to be in control of our inner world.
This is because as soon as we commit ourselves to something, our mind will come with all sorts of negativities to challenge and question our commitment. The more we go against the mind by committing to a task even if our minds tell us that we will fail, the more we are developing the power of our Mind – making it listen to us rather than following it like it’s our master.
When we commit, it also allows us to focus on developing the relationship we have rather than to escape it. When we lack commitment, stray thoughts and desires can easily pull us away from committing to a relationship and developing it fully.
When we develop the habit of commitment, even committing to something when we experience suffering within that relationship, we are developing the power of focus. Commitment in this respect can be seen as developing the power of setting a goal and sticking with it until it is completed. Often, most of us make a goal and complete it half-way. Commitment is what allows us to complete the whole journey.
Develop Experienced Knowledge
One can simply practise commitment in everyday life by simply prolonging the relationship just “a bit longer” when one has the intention of ending it.
I.e. to carry on with one’s business ventures just a little bit longer just to challenge oneself.
And then observing the Inner-Resistances to develop the Knowing.
The Creator's MeditationLink here
Commitment can be developed in the meditation sessions by setting a time-duration and committing oneself to complete the practice without ceasing the commitment at all levels, i.e. to not leave the practice at the physical level through ceasing the practice, to not leave the practice at the emotional level by dwelling on the negative or exciting physical sensations and day dreaming, to not leave the practice at the mental level by generating negative judgement towards the practice.
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