"Make yourself clear for others to see who You Are."
Communication is about Expressing The Self for the world to see.
The more honest the communication, the clearer The Self will be.
When one has problems communicating, then there will be more chances for miscommunication.
This article will address the issues that one can experience when in communication to Other Selves.
Communication In Depth
When one looks for the cause of one’s lack of ability to communicate eloquenty one will perhaps come to the conclusion that it has something to do with language problems i.e. the use of grammar, body language and so forth.
However, that is only a small part of a bigger picture. It is only when one looks within that one will find deeper causes as to why one cannot communicate clearly and why they have limitations to expressing themselves and this will always take one to discover their Fears of being honest with who they are. When we have such a fear it is difficult to communicate eloquently because much of the energy will be spent on feeding that fear, of on the imagination on what other people may think of us.
Realize that when we have a fear of expressing ourselves the result will be an Unclear Self.
Most of us have a fear of communicating with each other in an honest way because we do not wish to show to others our pure and raw reactions / thoughts / emotions. It is often much easier to play a role and say what will please other people’s expectations and hide what one really feels and thinks about the situation. Often most of us will find it much easier to just express that part of ourselves that we believe people will accept and keep the parts of ourselves which we believe will be rejected hidden away.
Without addressing these fears we will never be able to simply be and allow otherse to see clearly as to who we really are.
Importance Of Addressing Communication
It is important to address the impediments to one’s ability to communicate.
Firstly, when one is unable to communicate to the world clearly one will attract the “wrong friends.” Also miscommunication can also lead to many “unnecessary arguments.”
Also, when The Self is Unclear, then the Universe will never be able to understand the desires of The Self. It is important here to realize that the Universe is always working to fulfil our desires thus if we do not express ourselves clearly then the Universe will continue to give us what we do not need.
How clearly do you communicate your desires to people around you?
When we do not communicate ourselves properly for the Other Selves to see then people will continue to misperceive us. These experiences can make us dwell in the feeling of always being alone and misunderstood.
It is only by addressing our inabilities to communicate ourselves clearly that we can discover what is driving behind it which is our fears. The effect of the fear can also greatly stimulate the brain and make the mind dwell constantly in the imagination of what to say in certain situations and dwell in the intellectual activity of how to say something without it being perceived it in a certain way.
Path Of Creator
Communication In Relation To The Path Of Creator
To truly transform and release the Fears concerning Miscommunication will require one to take the journey into discovering the deeper Causes of one’s fears.
At The Idea Level
And the Seed Cause to all forms of Sufferings recede back to Negative Ideas, let us look at some of the Negative Ideas that can create impediments to our abilities to communicate.
What we will discover is that these Negative Ideas will all revolve around the theme of Self-Judgement
“How should I express myself Perfectly?”
...so that I will not judge myself
....so that others will not judge me
“It Is Not Ok To Be Too Honest”
Our upbringing and culture and the people that we were surrounded with when we were young can have a huge influence on the beliefs we have and how we should act and be in society.
To live in society, we no doubt will have picked up ideas of how we are expected to behave. For instance, ideas about how to be a "perfect friend" or a "perfect employee" or a "perfect man" and so forth.
When we become attached to the ideas of how people expect us to be, this can push the direction of love out of balance because when there is an excess of love outwards one can lose the ability to express themselves honestly – For instance, developing a habit of agreeing with others in times when we are actually disagreeing with them on the inside.
This can greatly create blockages in the Knowing of The Self.
Blockages in one's speech will gradually be released as The Self understands more and more what the purpose of the communication is from the perspective of the Universe - which is to be as clear as possible because it is by being a Clear Self that can help Others to develop the Knowing of The Self as well.
The journey will take one to understand that the purpose for communication is for people to exchange their thoughts and feelings with each other. This is how the Self-Knowing expands. When the communication is unfiltered by fear, then The Selves become clear and this will help catalyze the Knowing of The Self for both sides.
The destination is towards becoming a Clear Self for others to see. This is about being truthful for who we are. This is about simply being ourselves.
Let us look at some of the Negative Ideas in relation to the fear of communication.
“It Is Not Ok To Disagree”
This is a Negative Idea which can greatly inhibit one’s ability to communicate.
And the journey to transform and release the Negative idea will involve one to develop the Knowing that “It is ok to disagree.”
On such a journey one will realize that it is through the knowing and sharing of different information that people can improve and grow their knowledge i.e. open their mind to other ideas. Self-Acceptance can also be developed through disagreeing with others because when we disagree with others it will give each sides an opportunity to forgive and understand each other.
Develop Experienced Knowledge
One can develop Experienced Knowledge of their abilities to communicate themselves clearly by observing for any negativities experienced when they communicate and observing just how much their speech and actions align with their true thoughts and feelings. One can also examine how long it takes for one to decide before expressing themselves.
To catalyze the Knowing, one can simply learn to express themselves more and more and be self-aware of all the reactions that come up from within..
The Creator's MeditationLink here
Practising honesty in the Creator’s Meditation will help one with being honest / clear in expressing oneself for the world to see. This is developed through observing all the physical sensations throughout the body as is i.e. if pain is experienced in a part of the body, simply observe it as it is rather than trying to change it, suppress it or even exaggerate it. But always do all observations with a Calm Mind, if the mind is not calm, try to pull it back to the state of calmness. This is how we practice not reacting to our reactions.
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