"We all fear darkness because what lies within there is not known. So illuminate the Darkness by going inwards to Know it"
Defining Not Knowing
There are some of us who can venture forth into the “Unknown” whilst there are some of us who cannot.
For instance, some of us tend to always worry about "what will happen if I do this or that?" For instance when we are invited to a party with people that we haven't met before, when we go to a new workplace, when we travel to a new country, when we undertake a new project / business venture / try a new diet / food and so forth.
And then there are some of us who do not even worry at all and enjoy going to new experiences unprepared.
This article is is about addressing the Suffering States of mind in relation to experiencing the Unknown and the deeper cause of this state.
Not Knowing In Depth
Many of us have the fear of the Unknown. Some more than others.
The fear of not Knowing can happen in all kinds of moments when we cannot predict or guess the outcome of an experience. The fear can lead us to imagine the worst outcome.
The fear of the unknown works in conjunction with other fears to create a miserable experience for The Self in particular Doubt / Indecisiveness / Insecurity / Worry / Anxiety etc.
In looking deeper for the Cause, one will Realize that the Fear of the Unknown is really the fear of particular suffering states of mind that may be brought out by going towards the experience – For instance, going to public speaking we may fear being embarrassed, going to bungee jump we may fear being not in control and so forth. What we are really fearing is the discomfort of the suffering states of mind and negative physical sensations that may be brought out by these experiences.
So if these Suffering States of the Mind behind the Fear of the Unknown is addressed then there will no longer be any Fears of it as The Self will not care whether or not the worst case scenario may happen because it will no longer be uncomfortable.
Importance Of Addressing The Fear
The effects of such fear is that it can make us avoid new or experiences or experiences that may bring discomfort when there the experience is centered around subjects that we are not familiar with. This can not only hold us back from creating new relationships but also experiences which otherwise may be beneficial for our growth.
When was the last time you did something out of the norm?
When we have a fear of not knowing, it can also stimulate the mind to “imagine / fill the space” of the unknown with the worst things that could happen. This can be very draining and can distort the Truth /Reality of one’s experience.
Do you often imagine about the worst things that can happen in a situation?
When we run away from experiences which bring out the Fear of the Unknown we are turning away from an opportunity to bring out the Sufferings behind the Fear into light. These are great opportunities for us to Know ourselves and transform the mind even deeper.
Path Of Creator
Not Knowing In Relation To The Path Of Creator
The journey begins with the intention to address the fear.
The journey will be one of Self-Discovery - of finding and transforming the Ideas that has caused this fear.
This journey will take one to realize that it is only natural to not know when we go towards new experiences because we can never predict the outcome of any experiences. By simply asking The Self “What is the worst case scenario that I am fearing?” one will be able to develop the Knowing of the Sufferings behind the experience to know what is causing such a fear of the unknown.
At The Idea Level
As the Seed Cause to all forms of Sufferings will all recede back to Negative Ideas – Ideas which promote the Rejection of The Self – to transform these Ideas will involve one to develop the Acceptance Of The Self – towards oneself and others.
The fears in relation to Not Knowing in particular are created by our attachment to the Ideas of what is acceptable to the Self and what is not. Because through attachment, we will then fear that the things we cannot accept happening may happen, and also the things we want to happen will not happen.
To accelerate the release will require one to develop the Knowing of what it is that one cannot accept. Going towards the experiences which one fears can be helpful as the Negative Reactions from such experiences can bring in some greater insights. But of course one must remember to do it in gradual steps because when one is filled with too much fear one can avoid stepping into the experience thus what can happen is that The Self can end up in stagnation, frozen and unwilling to move forward. Also it's important to incorporate practices of Stillness such as meditation so that one can observe the negative experiences with more clarity.
Let us look at some of the Negative Ideas that can drive the Fear of Knowing.
One may discover the following ideas in their journey towards self-discovery.
A Possible Negative Mental Declaration
"It is not ok to not know"
--->I reject myself and others when I am/they do not know
= There will be fear when I appear to not know because it is not ok.
For the mind which carries the negative declaration, the person will tend to shy away from asking questions or avoid experiences when one cannot be absolutely sure of the outcome.
The journey of developing Self-Acceptance is about transforming the Negative Idea from "It is not ok to not know" -> "It is ok to not know
The transition towards the positive declaration begins when one realizes that in order to know the Truth of the outcome of the experience one has to go towards the experience. And through going towards the experience and realizing that the outcome is “different” or “not that bad” as one had expected, The Self will realize the difference between imagination and reality - and become less fearful of that experience - Realize that the imagination driven by fear will always play the "Worst" outcome, and that outcome usually would never happen in life.
But this is only half the step – the other step is to discover as to why one simply cannot Accept any type of outcome and this will take one to address the deeper issues within oneself. So one can ask oneself the question, "Why can I not accept the worst possible outcome?" And it is by addressing the suffering states of the mind discovered through the Self-Knowing that one can truly release oneself out of the fear of the Unknown.
The journey is balanced through moving also towards the opposite declaration - "It is ok to know"
Develop Experienced Knowledge
An easy step - when you do not know whether or not to contact someone in fear that they might react negatively, you can simply contact them and observe the difference between reality and imagination.
The Creator's Meditation / VipassanaLink here
Every time you find yourself questioning whether or not you should meditate, simply meditate to discover the Truth rather than dwell on the imagination of what could happen. Realize that you can always change your mind if you make a choice if it doesn’t work out.