"Loving yourself is not about getting a high score but rather to Accept yourself even when you fail"
We all have days when we we do not perform our best. For example we can have days when we constantly make mistakes at work, or days when we forget to do certain things, or days when we lose balance and trip over.
Underperforming simply means to perform less than our best.
This article will go into depth into the Causes of underperforming and to address the suffering States of Mind in relation to underperforming.
Underperforming In Depth
There are two parts to underperforming that will be addressed in this article.
Firstly, we will look at the Causes to underperforming at the physical level.
Secondly, we will look at ways to address the Negativity experienced in the Mind when one underperforms.
Underperforming at the physical level
The quality of our actions will always be determined by the quality of our physical and mental state.
For instance, if we are physically or mentally tired then obviously we will not able to perform our best. If we are mentally confused then our actions will be a confused one. If we are mentally agitated i.e. by anger and frustration then we would not be able to focus on the task at hand and thus resulting in underperforming.
Thus to address the cause of “underperforming” at the physical level, one will have to address one's diet and lifestyle as to why one is lacking physical and mental energy.
This can involve improving the quality of one's sleeping patterns, this can involve in trying different diets, this can also involve exercise such as doing yoga. If you wish to explore more about these areas you can find articles on these catalysts on the website.
Underperforming at the Perceptual level
Why one would declare to oneself that one has “underperformed” will be due to the reason that The Self has set certain expectations on The Self. So the more one tries to be a perfectionist, the more often one will feel that one has underperformed.
Now we will look at the negativity that can be experienced when one perceives oneself as having being “underperformed.”
When we experience Sufferings associated with Underperforming it means that there are Negative Ideas driving the experience – Ideas which promote the Rejection of The Self.
These Negative Ideas will not only bring Sufferings i.e. judgement / criticism / negativity to The Self when it underperforms, but it will also create the fear of underperforming as well.
Importance Of Addressing Underperforming
The fears and negativities involved with Underperforming has to be addressed if one wishes to experience greater happiness in life. Realize that one will never be able to experience happiness if one is unable to be content with oneself in every moment - even when one fails.
When the issues of underperforming is left unaddressed then one will not even be able to experience contentment even if one has reached great heights in life. In fact the self-negativity will only push The Self to do more, to set even higher expectations which can leave The Self stuck in a cycle of self-criticism, disappointment and lack of deep fulfilment.
Are you satisfied with what you already have?
As stated before, to perform well in life will always be correlated to the state of one’s Mental State. And that mental state will never be a clear one if one fears that they may underperform because the fear will make one's one’s mind clustered with the thoughts of “failing”. Thus the fear of underperforming is actually a big cause for underperforming because one will never be able to perform well if one is performing out of fear and negativity. The fear thus can be a self-fulfilling prophecy.
Do you often imagine yourself being successful or fall short of success?
For individuals who has deep issues with Underperforming, they can experience a great deal of regret, of always looking back in the past to constantly analyze the ways in which one could have done “better” or do better next time – i.e. how one could've won whether it was an argument or a game, how one could've presented themselves better in front of a stranger or an audience and so forth. When one is in this mental state one can fall into the illusion that one is loving oneself by striving to improve oneself and not seeing beyond the illusion to realize that to truly improve oneself is to love the self no matter if one fails or not.
Do you often dwell in the thoughts that you could have done something better?
Path Of Creator
Underperforming In Relation To The Path Of Creator
The Journey begins with The Self developing the intention to address the issues of Underperforming. And such intentions can be developed through becoming aware of how self-criticism can affect one's experience of happiness in life.
To help with the progress, one can simply realize that one can never have “perfect days” every day. It is highly unlikely because there will always be things in the world that will throw us off balance or things can happen which we cannot predict.
Developing this area of Knowing can take us to the realization that it is only “natural” for one to underperform because we can never be at our “best” every day. The deeper issue thus is not so much about whether or not to underperform, but rather to address the reason as to why The Self cannot simply Accept and be content with oneself when one underperforms.
The journey thus will require one to dive deep into the Cause of one’s Sufferings and that ultimately take one to go through lessons concerning Self-Acceptance to release it.
As the Seed Cause to all forms of Sufferings will all recede back to Negative Ideas, let us look at one of the Negative Ideas that can create issues in the mind concerning Underperforming.
A Possible Negative Mental Declaration
"It is not ok to fail"
For the mind which carries the negative declaration, the person will tend to hold a great fear in failing to meet expectations or fear been seen as a failure in other people's eyes.
The transition towards the positive declaration begins when one realizes that when one defines success through other people's reactions one will encounter countless failures because everyone's reaction towards the same performance will always be different. Our fears can also make us guess other people's reactions in the most negative light thus making us fall into the illusion that others do not accept us, and have high expectations towards ourselves. The journey thus will thus first involve redefining success through one's own perception of what it really is.
Develop Experienced Knowledge
In everything that you do, simply tell yourself “Good Job” and leave it as is. Doing this will help you to become aware of the times when you simply could not say this. Realize that this is best done in moments when you are judging yourself for having underperformed. Simply observe the Inner Resistance each time you try to counter the Negativity that surfaces from within. Over time you will begin to know the reasons as to the Inner Resistance. This is how we develop the Knowing of The Self.
The Creator's Meditation / VipassanaLink here
When we meditate it is easy to encounter wandering thoughts as to what we did yesterday or what we will do in the future rather than simply focus on the Present. In all scenarios, always simply draw your attention back to the Present Moment and Observe it as is. This is how we train the Mind to not criticise the self for the past or to expect The Self for the future.
Know and Transform The Self!
There are many free courses that you can try on the Courses page for you to develop greater self-acceptance even if you failed in something.
For example, the Self Blessings Meditation will guide you to learn how to develop Self-Acceptance by practising a 5 minute Self-Acceptance technique every night. This practice will help you to see that no matter what you do in life, every thing you do is perfect.