"Are we the driver of our lives or is it our habits? "
On the surface, a habit can be seen as a tendency to behave in a certain way.
I.e. a habit of always talking in a particular way,
I.e. a habit of always doing a particular thing everyday.
I.e. some of us like to sleep late, some of us like to sleep early,
I.e. some of us have a habit of smoking, some of us have a habit of drinking,
So we all have our own unique habits.
Let's look deeper into what kind of habits we can have.
Some of us have a habit of talking too much, some of us have a habit of being quiet.
Some of us have habits of being optimistic, some of us have habits of being pessimistic.
Looking even deeper,
Some of us have a habit of choosing particular flavours in the food we eat.
And even deeper,
Some of us have a preference towards particular types of personalities and particular types of appearances.
"Why do I have these Habits?"
In this article, we will look even deeper into the psyche of the mind to understand the cause for different habits to exist within so that we can know what a habit really is.
Habit In Depth
The Creation Of A Habit
When we try to understand the Creation of our Habits from the surface we will perhaps come to the conclusion that the beginnings of our habits arise from the repetitious action of doing the same thing over and over again - i.e. by always being talkative all the time it creates a habit pattern in the mind.
But what causes us to act in these various ways?
In looking deeper for the cause for our habit patterns what we we will find is the Reactions behind our Actions.
I.e. what we will find is that it is our Reactions that makes us reply to certain comments in a particular way.
I.e. It is our Reactions that drives us to do certain things every day, such as influencing us to avoid certain situations or to go towards certain experiences in life.
But what are Reactions?
Our Reactions are composed of our Inner Creations (Emotions/Thoughts etc.)
(See Action & Reaction to understand it in depth)
It is from the reactions that we generate in Realize that in all moments that we are experiencing life, we are all generating some sort of reaction within (Some of which can be so subtle that we may not be aware).
It is from the reactions that we generate in every moment that creates the beginnings of our habit patterns. The Actions thus is the result of the influence of the habit patterns within.
When we look at our habits this way, it then becomes clear as to why can we have a tendancy to like and dislike different things. For example, by understanding that the cause for our habit patterns come from our reactions, it then becomes clearer that the reason why we like and dislike a particular particular flavour of ice cream is because of the reaction that it creates inside.
So to find the reactions which has created our habit patterns, We can simply question ourselves "What kind of emotions/thoughts is generating the habit pattern?"
Our Reactions includes not only the emotions/thoughts within, but it also include the physical sensations we experience on the body. Realize that the mind and body is connected thus there will always be a mind-body relationship. For instance, when we experience the state of anger it can make our body heat up and our blood pump faster.
The more you develop Self-Knowing, the clearer the cause of your habits will become clear. For instance you will realize that the reason why you avoid certain situations in life for instance trying new foods is because of the negative reactions that it brings.
So our reactions will determine our habit patterns, our likes and dislikes - even what kind of people we will marry! If we look hard enough into why we are drawn to a particular appearance of people what we will find is that it's because a particular appearance (i.e. angular face, oval face, circular face) will always generate a particular reaction within.
And why is this?
Let us explore this even deeper below
Path Of Creator
Habit In Relation To The Path Of Creator
The seed cause for our habit patterns will always arise from our beliefs, because it is from our beliefs that drives us to react in certain ways in life.
Here we will look at the type of beliefs we can create within that will create negative reactions -> negative habits which eventually leads to unhappiness.
In Chapter 5. Discovering The Sufferings we have come to know that all forms of Sufferings begin with a Negative Idea. A Negative Habit is simply a negative pattern of the mind that arises from the attachment to Negative Ideas, to certain beliefs we hold inside.. Often it is difficult to become aware of such attachments only until we find it impossible to let the beliefs go.
I.e. "It is not ok to dress and look a certain way"
"It is not ok to try new things"
"It is not ok to fail"
How easy can you let go of these Negative Ideas?
Some Examples Of Negative Habits
For instance we may avoid certain types of people because we experience negative reactions when we see them.
Or maybe it's a Habit of always sleeping late because of the Negative Reactions we experience when we try to sleep early.
Or it can be a Habit of always reaching for an alcoholic beverage to avoid the Negative Reactions we experience when we are sober.
Potentiated Ideas In Relation To Habit
A Potentiated Idea is the opposite of Negative Ideas. Instead of promoting Self-Rejection, Potentiated Ideas promote Self-Acceptance. Potentiated Ideas do not Create Negative Habits.
I.e. "It is ok to dress and look a certain way"
Potentiated Ideas will always promote the freedom of choice whilst Negative Ideas will limit our freedom. For instance, there is a difference between choosing a beautiful dress out of fear that one's not beautiful enough and choosing a beautiful dress out of self-acceptance. With Self-Acceptance, one is not bound to an attachment to a particular idea, or a fear, of negativity, or self-doubt. With Self-Acceptance, The Mind is simply open to all possibilities thus choices are made out love rather than out of fear.
Negative Habits And The Reality Of Suffering
When we generate a lot of Negative Ideas it can create a Suffering Reality for the Self.
For instance when we Create a Negative Idea such as "Black/Yellow/White people are bad," in our mind as we Reinforce this Negative Idea, the more we will make our negative beliefs become reality. Becoming attached to this negative beliefs will thus will make it a self-fulfilled reality because every time we experience seeing someone of those colours then we will experience negative reactions and this will lead to a suffering state of mind, and a desire to reject and avoid people of certain colors. Subconsciously we will then blame the people we see as the cause for making us feel in this suffering way way.
Suffering Habits thus not only can Negatively affect other people but also a great deal of unhappiness within - because how can one ever be happy through experiencing Negative States such as anger and judgement?
How to address/transform our Negative Habits
To release our Negative Habits we have to release our Negative Ideas. As simple as it sounds, it can be difficult, because Negative Habits are there because we all have deeply rooted Negative Ideas / beliefs about ourselves and the world.
And the more we generate Negative Reactions as we experience the Negative Ideas the more these Negative Ideas will be rooted in the mind. Thus a way to reverse the habit is to learn to let go of these Negative Ideas and Negative Reactions. For instance to "try" to not exaggerate our hate when we see someone we don't like, and try to generate Self-Acceptance towards them. Slowly with time the habit will be reversed. And the process is accelerated when one develops the Self-Knowing as to why the Negative Idea is even there in the first place.
That is why the importance of Stillness is emphasized again and again on the journey of Self-Transformation because it is by developing Stillness every day that we can become aware of our negative ideas, our negative reactions, and to observe them with a Still Mind rather than to react to them. i.e. letting everything come and go, to not react more to our reactions. And then through that Stillness we can then allow the inner wisdom to arise to see that these moments of negative reactions are opportunities to develop even greater stillness / compassion / Self-Acceptance.
By practising The Creator's Meditation will greatly help one to release their Negative Habits because through the practice one will develop the foundation to be ever more Still than before and simply observe everything as is.
From my own personal studies in the consciousness, the amount of energy required for a Negative Habit to completely released is equal to the amount of Negative Energy invested into Creating the Habit in the first place.
That is why it can seem impossible for one to release themselves from their Negative Habits/Sufferings without some sort of a Catalyst because some of us have been feeding our Negative Habits with Negative Reactions for such a long time, one could even say many life-times.
But we can accelerate the process of releasing ourselves from our Negative Habits by doing the exact opposite to what we have been doing before, which is to develop Stillness, Knowing, and Self-Acceptance. This whole website is a catalyst so you can use it to accelerate your journey of Self-Transformation. Also the Universe will always lend you a hand when you choose to love instead of fear so your journey will will be easier from this perspective.
behind our Actions are our Reactions.
And behind our Reactions are the Ideas.
Thus whenever we address the issue of our Habits, we have to address it at the Seed level. This is at the level of the Mind - the Negative Ideas / Negative Reactions.
To accelerate the journey, develop Stillness. From Stillness develop Self-Knowing. From Self-Knowing develop Self-Acceptance. And then you will experience Self-Transformation.
Develop Experienced Knowledge
One way of discovering our Negative Habits is to become aware of our Reactions in life. If there are Negative Reactions behind our Habits then it is a sign that there are some form of Sufferings to be addressed behind the experience. One way to deepen the Knowing even further is to practice always not giving in to your habit patterns and then see how much of a Negative Reaction is experienced and then ask why the negative Reaction is there with a calm mind.
The Creator's Meditation / VipassanaLink here
The way you go through your body journey i.e. the attitude you carry, the speed in which you move from one part of the body to another, the negative reactions that happen from time to time are all microcosmic representations of the habits of how you judge yourself and similar situations in life.
Thus by simply observing the little things in which you do in the Creator's Meditation, you are in fact developing the Knowing of your bigger habits in life.
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