Being In Control
"Develop the control of oneself, rather than the control of others."
Defining Being In Control
Being in control is about mastering our mental/emotional/physical faculties.
I.e. to become the master of our emotions and mind rather than let it overcome us.
I.e. to become the master of our primal physical desires rather than let it overcome us.
This article will explore the ways in which we can develop our abilities to be in control of our emotions and mind.
Being In Control In Depth
Being in control at a deeper level is defined here as a peaceful state where one is able to be in control of their thoughts and emotions rather than the other way round – i.e. experiencing uncontrollable emotions and wandering thoughts.
So it is about being grounded and being aware of what is happening in the present moment.
The goal is however not so much about developing control like learning to develop a particular skill. The journey is to find out the Deeper Cause as to why one cannot be in control of one’s Inner World and ultimately addressing it at the root. But initially on the journey of learning how to control the mind, it can feel as if we are forcing the mind to listen to us, but ultimately we want to reach a stage where being in control naturally becomes our natural state.
Naturally we should be the master of our own mind. But because we have not taken care of our mind properly a disconnection has been created inside to the point where our fears, wandering thoughts, negativities can run wild. So developing the ability to be in control is not so much about developing an ability, but rather to come back to our natural state where we are once again the masters of our own mind.
Path Of Creator
Being In Control In Relation To The Path Of Creator
When we are no longer in control of our Emotions/Thoughts, we are in fact no longer the Creator of our lives.
Instead of making choices out of clarity we can end up being pushed to make choices out of our Sufferings - i.e. our fears, and instead of acting out of wisdom, the choice we make in life can be controlled by our negativities i.e. anger and impatience.
Ask yourself, how challenging is it to not procrastinate? How difficult it has become to forgive when we are angry? To be happy when we have nothing? To not judge others when they make a mistake or anger us, and simply letting it be? How hard is it to be like a tree and face all the sufferings that can happen in life with acceptance?
It is only when we look at the way we live our lives that we realize just how little of a control we have over ourselves. Most of the time we are simply allowing our Sufferings to overpower us instead of exercising our powers of control to overcome it. And because we have stopped "trying" we have "forgotten" how to regain our control over the mind.
To regain back control is to take responsibility in developing the Knowing of The Self and addressing one’s Sufferings. Once the suffering states of the mind are transformed and released then the issues of not being in control will naturally be addressed. This is because the negative states of the mind will always be the cause of the lack of control we have over the mind in the first place. For example, the more fears and negativities we have, the less control we will have over the mind. So to develop control is to simply transform and release the negative states of the mind at the seed level.
The journey to get there is about developing Self-Awareness in every moment so that we can become aware of all moments when there are subtle or overpowering thoughts that can make us react from within. And then to accept that it is there but not letting it control us much like standing firm like a tree watching a river flow rather than being washed away by it. It is through the attempt of trying to be Still when the Unstillness comes that we can develop the mental power - mastery over the mind. The more stillness we develop, the more Self-Knowing we will also develop, which will allow us to see clearer the cause / the beginnings of the chaos within.
Develop Experienced Knowledge
Develop Self-Awareness in all moments so you can observe and develop Experienced Knowledge of just how much you are in control of your emotions and thoughts in every moment.
The Creator's Meditation / VipassanaLink here
Simply observe all things as is with a Still Mind. This is how we develop control in the practice of Meditation. That is because by resisting the urge to imagine, to exaggerate or to diminish what we experience in the body journey, we are developing the Inner Power to resist being overcome by wandering mind.
Know and Transform The Self!
To be in control of ourselves, we must first learn how to be the master of our mind.
Try the 22 Days Creators Meditation Course to develop Self-Knowing of who you are, of your deepest fears and desires. In these 22 days you will also learn how to transform your mind and develop Stillness in a natural way.