Creation Within Creation
butterfly butterfly

Saying No

"When you don't say no people will just assume that you are saying yes"


Defining Saying No

Saying No is about saying no when we desire to.

And the ability to do this can be necessary in situations when people ask us to do things we do not wish to do, or when people try to invade our personal boundaries.

Some people find it easy to do this but there are also people who will find it extremly difficult.

This article will address the Suffering States of Mind in relation to saying No

Saying No In Depth

There are some of us who do not have the “wisdom” to say No.

There are some of us who do not have the “courage” to say No.

Obviously with experience one will be able to accumulate the wisdom to say No in the right situations and for some, especially those who have an excess of love outwards. this can take a very long time.

But often the accumulation of such wisdom can be impeded when there is a Fear of saying No. Because in fear of saying No, The Self may not see the alternative of actually saying No. It is only when one sees the fear as an issue one can finally see the possibilities of saying No and begin to develop the Knowing and wisdom as to why one cannot do so.


Importance Of Addressing Saying No

When we have an inability to say no to people, what happens is that we can attract people into our lives that can be physically/energetically demanding.

When we also have an inability to say no, we are actually not allowing other people to Know who we really are. It is only when we say no to things people demand of us that they can know us clearer and realize that we are actually tired or that when we are going out of our way to help them. It is then people can truly appreciate our efforts for helping them. Thus clarity in expressing oneself is how relationships can go deeper.

The most important reason as to why we need to develop the ability to say No is because it it is by saying No that the underlying fears can surface.

Path Of Creator

Saying No In Relation To The Path Of Creator

We are the Creator of our lives.

But when we lack the ability to say No to people we are in fact letting others create our lives.

The journey is not about saying No for the sake of saying No, but rathert it is to develop the ability to say No in situations when we need to say it and addressing the cause as to why we cannot say it.

The Path will thus involve the transforming and releasing of Fears concerning with Saying No.

At The Idea Level

As The Seed Cause of all forms of Sufferings can be traced back to Negative Ideas, let us look at some of the Negative Ideas that can promote the Fear of Saying No.

Often these are Ideas such as,

“It is not ok to be rude.”
“It is not ok to hurt someone’s feelings”
“It is not ok to be too direct”
“It is not ok to be unfriendly”

Usually the attachment to these Ideas happens because of Excessive love outwards.

And as one takes a closer look, one will find that the Fears of saying No to others are there because The Self will fear being rejected in the same way if someone was to say no to them.

The Fear can actually be more intense the more there is something that one needs from the Other Self. The Self can also imagine that if he/she was to say no other people then in the future they may not help him/her. Learning how to be independent will help one to greatly clear this confusion of the mind.

Thus two sides of the issue has to be addressed. And to address it will involve developing Self-Trust and Self-Support because when one has support for oneself one will no longer have the fear of being Rejected by Other Selves.


Develop Experienced Knowledge

Become aware of your Inner World – your emotions and thoughts so that you can be aware of moments when there is a desire to say No to the Other Self – I.e. when people ask you to do something or when they come and breach your boundaries, when you have no more energy to give to others etc. Often when we have a habit of not saying no to others we can become numb to our true desires within.

The Creator's Meditation
Link here

When we encounter wandering thoughts to do with themes of people demanding us to do things, realize that by simply not dwelling in these thoughts and focusing on the Body Journey we are in fact learning how to say No to these thoughts at a deeper level.

Courses On Saying No

Currently Unavailable


Join the Facebook Group Page - Self-Transformation With Jonny. Here you can ask questions, share with each other your journey of Self-Transformation and meet like-minded people!

Related Links
Infinity Sign