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Blame

"We fear being punished in the same way in which we punish othes"

Introduction

Defining Blame

Blame is when someone accuses of someone of doing something wrong.


This article is about addressing the suffering states of mind when one gets blamed and how to transform that negative state of mind.



Blame In Depth

The focus of this article is about addressing the negative state of mind that one can experience when one gets blamed and the cause of it rather than talking about whether the act of blaming one another is a good or bad thing.


Before we go deep into the topic we have to first realize that when people blame us it may not necessarily be that we actually did something wrong, rather it may simply be a subjective opinion they have about something we did that just did not fit well with their own belief system.


People will always have their own definitions of what is right and wrong. So it can be easy to get blamed for no good reason by others. For instance, we may think that it's better to give each other time and space when we just had an argument with a loved one. But then that may be perceived as being too distant and cold by the other person.


For whatever reason we are blamed for, some of us can react quite negatively to the experience. And that is the negative state of mind that we are focusing on when we are transforming the mind. These negative states of the mind can often include the states of fear, anger, judgement, analysis and so forth.


From one perspective, our fears of being blamed can have been brought out during childhood by our parents who are always blaming us for doing the wrong things. As our parents can embody the symbol of authority i.e. what is right and wrong, it can create a sense of "unworthiness to be loved" when they constantly blame us for doing something wrong. And similarly when someone blames us in life it can create similar reactions and belief patterns within the consciousness. But from the perspective of Self-Transformation, the negative state of mind was already there at birth and the life experiences we go through in life merely acted as a catalyst to help bring it out into the light so that we could work on the spiritual lessons waiting to be discovered from within.


As one dives deeper into one's mind to observe what actually creates the fear of prosecution one will encounter the theme of judgement at play. We all fear being blamed and being prosecuted because no one likes to be judged negatively. Afterall we are all inherently born with the need to love others and to be loved - because the deeper mind sees that all is One Self.


And even deeper, ironically it is through our desire and need to punish other people for doing wrong that can sustain the negativity and fear of prosecution because we fear that people will punish us in the same way we wish others to be punished when they make similar mistakes.


Thus to truly release ourselves from such a fear we not only have to learn to accept others when they do wrong but also to look at the cause as to why we want to punish others. Usually issues to do with "control" and "responsibilities" will be at play.


All fears will always recede back to one root cause which is the lack of Self-Acceptance. When one no longer lacks Self-Acceptance then one will no longer feel the need to justify oneself out of fear when one is being blamed. Thus developing support for oneself is a good start of addressing such fear / negativity.



Importance

Importance Of Addressing The Fear Of Being Blamed

It is important to address the Fear of being blamed.


The Fear of Prosecution can be very draining to the mind as it can make us "defensive" and imagine all the possible scenarios where we can get blamed. It can make us argue with "imaginary" Selves in our mind.


Do you often find yourself imagining people blaming you or criticizing you?


When we experience the Fear of getting blamed, instead of looking at how to solve a solution to a problem at hand we can start devoting our energy into how to escape getting blamed. When energy is directed into such "defensive" state, it can then make one appear to others as if one really had done something wrong when one gets blamed for something. So it's important to devote the energy into developing Self-Confidence.


WHen one has a fear of being blamed, one can also experience an imbalanced energy in the throat cakra area. This can lead to the inability to express oneself clearly and also the fear of speaking out in situations where one desires to correct other people's mistakes.


Are you often fearful of conforntations?


Path Of Creator

Blame In Relation To The Path Of Creator

The destination is to reach a state of mind where we can naturally accept ourselves and others even when we are blamed - even if it is for the wrong reasons. The Path usually takes us to the accumulation of the wisdom that people will always see you for how they want to see you rather than who you really are. So the journeyof Self-Transformation is thus not so much about wasting energy in trying to control other people's perception of you but rather to use the energy in expressing who you really are and how you really think - to express yourself honestly. And whether or not they will believe you will always be up to their own choice. The importance is whether or not you can accept others and yourself unconditionally.


Also as we develop Self-Belief and have the confidence to stand up for ourselves, people will begin to notice who this at a subconscious level. People then will naturally think twice before accusing us because they will know that we will stand up for ourselves. Thus there is no need to focus on "how to get out of a blame" because as one naturally develops Self-Confidence, less and less people will try to blame you for things you did or did not do.


Thus all this will happen naturally as one simply works on transforming and releasing their Sufferings. Because the more one works on their negativities/fears, one will gradually develop Self-Belief.


One may discover the following ideas in their journey towards self-discovery.


"It is not ok to be wrong"

This is an example of a Negative Idea which can drive the fear of being blamed. The transition towards the positive declaration begins through accepting other people when they have done something wrong or when you have done something wrong.


A note here is that the Acceptance is not reached through suppressing one's own opinion and giving in to other's but rather it is through the acceptance of other's opinion at the same time accepting one's own. It will take time for one to develop the wisdom to achieve such balance and harmony of Self-Acceptance.


For the mind which carries the positive declaration, the person will be able to freely accept oneself and others when someone's doing something wrong. One can then also freely choose how they wish to address that situation through wisdom rather than out of the negative states of the mind.



Practice

Develop Experienced Knowledge

When you are being blamed for the wrong reason, simply try to express yourself. And it does not matter if you ultimately do so or not because it is through the intention of trying to do so that you can uncover any negativities of being blamed or prosecuted that may be lurking inside. And when they do come out, simply observe them to develop the Knowing.


The Creator's Meditation / Vipassana
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Whenever you experience inner dialogues of trying to defend yourself against other people’s accusations of you, simply refocus your attention on the body journey with a calm mind. When you do this, you are practising the art of developing self-belief towards yourself and compassion towards others at the deeper level of the mind.


Know and Transform The Self!

The more forgiving we are towards others, the less fears we will experience in others punishing us.


Try the 10 Day One-Self Catalyst to uncover your deepest Negative Ideas / States of Self-Rejection. In this course you will learn how to naturally let go of judgement towards yourself and others in a powerful way to create greater happiness within.


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