"Confidence is an state of believing in yourself."
Confidence is about having Self-Belief in your ideas and your actions. See Catalyst - Support for deeper insight into Confidence.
Confidence In Depth
On the journey of Self-Transformation, when we work on building confidence, we are talking about developing confidence at the state of mind. From a deeper perspective, it is about transforming the negative beliefs such as our fears that is preventing us from being in the state of confidence.
Thus realize the difference between "appearing confident" on the outside and "being confident" on the inside. It is important to understand this difference so that one can put more work on developing confidence from the inside. This is because once we have confidence within, then the appearance will naturally follow.
Importance Of Addressing Issues With Confidence
When we lack self-confidence it can greatly create internal blockages in relation to the ways we express ourselves and also affect our abilities to be unique and creative.
Do you often find yourself holding back your opinions in fears that people would laugh at it?
When we lack Self-Belief, we can carry the negative belief that we will fail in achieving our dreams. This can hold us back from achieving our deeper purpose in life.
Do you often find yourself believing that you will not succeed and fail?
It is important to address any issues of Self-Confidence if one wishes to live a more fulfilling life. The primary drive behind the state of un-confidence will always be some sort of fears to do with self-judgement – i.e. fears of failing, fears of being wrong, fears, fears of being rejected. So it is important to take the step to address the issues of un-confidence to uncover one’s deeper fears.
Path Of Creator
Confidence In Relation To The Path Of Creator
Confidence does not come with just a click of a finger. Developing Confidence is a journey of developing Self-Belief and transforming old negative beliefs about the Self. Thus the greater work is to become more confident than the day before - it is a life journey of developing greater Self-Acceptance everyday.
We can develop confidence simply by facing challenging experiences with a positive attitude. Confidence is developed when we "attempt" to support ourselves and "believe" in ourselves when we are faced with a challenging experience. This is how confidence can be slowly developed through time. So it is not so much about being "successful" at what we do, but rather to have the confidence, or more specifically, to attempt to have self-belief that we will "suceed" when we are faced with an experience that challenges us with the fear of failing. It is important to become aware of this difference, otherwise we can end up not taking a step forward to face our fears of failing, because in the end it's not so much about having a "successful" outcome but rather it's in how much we have "tried" to trust ourselves in those moments of fear.
So if we go through life facing each experience with doubt then no confidence will be developed. So the way is to step forward into the darkness to illuminate it, just trying to trust that we can find our way out of the darkness. Trust is what will illuminate your path.
To directly address issues to do with confidence we can look into the cause of why there was a lack confidence in the first place. And this will take us to explore the deeper cause which are our Sufferings - in particular our fears.
And as the Seed Cause of all sufferings will always recede back to Negative Ideas let us look at the issues of confidence at the level of Negative Ideas.
At The Idea Level
The general theme of the related Negative Ideas will usually be those which promote Self-Criticism.
“It is not ok to be wrong”
“It is not ok to fail”
“It is not ok to be rejected”
“It is not ok to be unique”
And so forth
Let us look at a Negative Idea to understand a bit more.
“It is not ok to be arrogant”
A Negative Idea that can create impediments to one's journey of developing greater Self-Confidence is the negative belief that being arrogant is somehow bad. For the mind which carries such Negative Declaration, one would have sustained the negative declaration out of the fear that one would be rejected if one were to be arrogant. This Negative Idea can also be fuelled through the state of rejecting others when they are arrogant as well.
This negative belief can create impediments on one's journey to developing greater Self-Confidence because it can make one subconsciously feel that being too confident in life is somehow bad and can make one appear undesirably arrogant to others. To release, realize that everyone has the divine right to be oneself no matter how strange or unique one is. There is nothing wrong with being arrogant or “appearing arrogant.” The focus here is in developing unconditional Self-Aceptance no matter who we are and how we appear.
Develop Experienced Knowledge
Behind the lack of confidence there will always be some sort of fear driving it.
Simply question yourself each time you experience the issues of confidence to develop the Knowing of The Self even deeper.
“What are my fears behind this experience?”
The Creator's Meditation / VipassanaLink here
Use the practice of meditation to develop confidence. In the practice of meditation when you encounter moments of self-doubt, simply observe it as is with a Still Mind rather than to engage it, to diminish it, or to try to exaggerate it. The state of self-doubt can be experienced in the meditation for instance when one encounters wandering thoughts to do with self-doubt, or when one feels one cannot complete the meditation session etc.
Know and Transform The Self!
There are many free courses that you can try on the Courses page for you to develop greater self-confidence. To feel appreciated will always begin with learning how to accept yourself for who you are.
For example, the Self Blessings Meditation will guide you to learn how to develop Self-Acceptance by practising a 5 minute Self-Acceptance technique every night.