"To accept, is to accept all there is."
Acceptance can be simply defined as Love
But as the definition of Love can differ greatly from one individual to another we will define Acceptance through another way which is to define it through the perspective of Nature - it is from here we can witness it in its pureset form.
If we look at the World outside, what we will discover is that the Nature/Universe is always in an act of Acceptance.
For instance, a leaf would fall to where the wind takes it, the water will flow to where its path takes it, the Sun would rise and fall in accordance to the cosmic flow.
Whatever comes, comes, whatever goes, goes.
Nature thus will not try to change the personalities of Fire or Water, or Light or Darkness. This can be seen as a state of unconditional Acceptance.
Nature does not Resist nor Distort the Truth - but simply Accepts the Truth as is.
Thus when we look at Acceptance from the perspective of Nature that the definition of what Acceptance becomes much clearer - which is to allow everything to be as is.
Such a simple definition of Acceptance can really be misunderstood when passed through the complicated minds of men.
This is because unlike Nature, we have the ability to make Choices.
As such we have a choice to not Accept all that is around us.
Thus unlike Nature, we can choose to Reject.
We can choose to Reject our surroundings. i.e. remove that tree blocking our view.
We can even Reject each other i.e. to not Accept others for who they are and attempt to change them to make them more "Perfect" in our views.
We can even choose to direct that Rejection inwards, to reject ourselves for who we are.
We can choose not to accept the Truth when we see or hear it.
It is only when we look at the way we react and interact with the world every day that we Realize just how much we are in the state of Rejection rather than Acceptance in every moment.
I.e. we can reject people when they anger us, we can reject ourselves when we fail at something, we can curse at the sky for bringing us the bad weather.
Thus the idea of accepting all there is, can sound ridiculous to the mind which is used to rejecting.
When the Idea of simply Accepting Everything sounds Unnatural to our Minds, we have deviated from Nature.
No matter how our minds can convince us to reject this and that, the reality is that such states can only bring Suffering within.
So it's important to learn how to accept. And the learning of this state can be difficult for one who has been dwelling in the state of rejection for long time.
One way to begin is to learn from nature for the clues of the state of Acceptance.
Look at that Tree which stands still even when facing a storm!
Thus if one wants to learn what it takes to truly Accept a situation or to truly Accept an experience or to truly Accept Someone, one can simply learn from the tree, from the wind, from the leaves, from the water, from the air, from the sun, from the planets, from the flow of the galaxies, from the Universe.
Yes, let the Universe be our Greater Teacher
Acceptance In Depth
Insight Into Acceptance
From the surface one can easily come into the conclusion that Acceptance is about the "Act of Acceptance - i.e. Acceptance as an Action.
I.e. perhaps one will conclude that the Act of allowing someone to yell at us whilst we stand there like a tree and doing nothing is an act of Acceptance.
I.e. Perhaps one will conclude that being friends with someone who we hate is an act of Acceptance.
However, to truly understand what Acceptance really is one has to look at Acceptance beyond the level of the Surface as a form of Action and towards seeing Acceptance at the deeper level of the Reaction.
It is much easier to understand what Acceptance is when we look at it from the level of the Reactions - our Inner State rather than Outer Appearance. This is because we can always lie through our Actions and pretend that we are "Accepting" but our Reactions/State will never lie.
It is only when we look at Acceptance from the level of Reactions that we can truly understand what Acceptance really is. And what we will discover is that when we are in such a state, we are allowing everything to be as is from our mind, from our heart. In such a state we are in harmony inwards and outwards. Such a peaceful state is a refined state of Happiness - a state that most of us do not experience enough - a state where we see that all is a part of ourselves, and we are a part of everything.
Path Of Creator
Acceptance In Relation To The Path Of Creator
Acceptance has been talked in length in this article.
But for what purpose?
We are all on a journey towards Happiness.
And how far we reach our destination will depend greatly on how much we refine and develop our own definition of Acceptance/Love
At first, one can understand Acceptance at the level of actions, i.e. through learning how to be compassionate and forgiving to all there is from the level of actions.
Then one can then go even deeper to understand that developing Self-Acceptance is more about carrying the Self-Acceptance at the level of the state of mind / at the level of one's Reactions, i.e. being compassionate and forgiving to all there is from the state of the mind.
Then one can go even deeper to understand that even greater Acceptance can be developed when it is directed in a balanced way - outwards towards Other Selves and inwards towards Ourselves
Then one can go even deeper to understand that the more one works on their suffering states of mind the more one will naturally develop Self-Acceptance.
Then one can develop Self-Acceptance even deeper by developing the Knowing that there is really just One Self - All is The Self!
And like this, the understanding of what Self-Acceptance can go deeper and deeper the more one carries the intention to refine that Knowing.
What is the relationship between Acceptance and Happiness?
From The Path Of Creator - Chapter 5. Discovering The Sufferings it was made clear that the Seed Cause of our Sufferings begins with our attachment towards Negative Ideas.
And what are Negative Ideas?
These are Ideas which promotes the Rejection Of The Self. And these Ideas can be simplified to Self-Declarations beginning with "It is not ok..."
"It is not ok to be selfish"
"It is not ok to be rude"
"It is not ok to not be successful"
Negative Ideas are The Seed Cause of our Negative Reactions/Fears/Unhappiness - Our Sufferings.
Let's understand this deeper by turning it around. So when we experience suffering states of mind, we will always be in a state of Self-Rejection. From another point of view, the Rejection is there because there is a Lack Of Self-Acceptance.
Thus to release oneself from their Sufferings/Negative Ideas will always involve the lessons Self-Acceptance, of Transforming the Negative Ideas towards Potentiated Ideas (Ideas which promote the Acceptance of The Self.)
"It is not ok to be selfish" ---> "It is ok to be selfish"
"It is not ok to be rude" ---> "It is ok to be rude"
"It is not ok to not be successful" ---> "It is ok to not be successful"
There will be of course confusion as to what Acceptance is along the way. Because on the journey of Transformation your own beliefs will be challenged.
Here are some common confusions. When we transform a Negative Idea to a Potentiated Idea.
For instance, let us look at the following Negative Idea
“It is not ok to be rude” --> “It is ok to be rude”
The focus here is not on becoming a rude person.
The focus here is not on not expressing ourselves to a rude person.
The focus here is not about letting the rude person do whatever they want to us.
What you choose to do at the level of action will always be up to you.
The focus of the Path is on developing Acceptance Of The Self at an Inner Level. And that is with Stillness / Compassion / Wisdom.
To illuminate the Confusion of how to develop Acceptance at the Inner Level the practice of Meditation and Yoga will be helpful. Because it is important to understand how the State of Acceptance really feels like at the level of Reaction. And through meditation as one learns to how to cultivate the State of Stillness, always pulling oneself back into a state of Stillness each time one experiences chaos, that State of Stillness, of Equanimity, of Observation is actually the State of Acceptance.
Without cultivating Stillness through a particular practice it can be easy to be in a state of reaction every time we experience suffering situations in life. If you wish to develop greater Stillness in life you can try the 5 Present Breaths - a meditation technique which will help you to cultivate Stillness.
Develop Experienced Knowledge
One of the ways to develop the Knowing of the Deeper Causes and the Spiritual Lessons behind our Sufferings, the following question can be asked
"How can I reach a state of Acceptance in this situation?"
Realize that there are many ways in which Acceptance can be directed.
- 1 - Directing the acceptance outwards.
- 2 - Directing the acceptance inwards.
- 3 - Realizing that "If the Other Self Can, then I can"
- And so forth..(You can refer to the Creator's Absorption Technique for more detail)
The Creator's Meditation / VipassanaLink here
In the Creator's Meditation as you go through the body journey and observe all sorts of physical sensations with a Still and Calm Mind without exaggerating and diminishing them, of observing them as they are without aversion or craving, you are in fact practising Acceptance at the Natural/Universal level of the mind. Such pure quality of Acceptance has the power to catalyze the Transformation of even the greatest of Sufferings.
Know and Transform The Self!
It's one thing to talk about Self-Acceptance and another to really experience it!
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