"What is the point of rushing through life?"
When we are impatient, it can make us rush things and it can also make us feel frustrated. Impatience can push us into a state of worry and panic that if we do not complete something by an amount of time something horrible will happen.
So impatience can be a very uncomfortable feeling to experience. As a result, the state of anger can follow, for instance, we can become angry at the situation or the person who has put us in the situation that has brought out the impatience. An example of this can be that our friends failed to meet us on time.
When we only look outwards for the cause of Impatience we will only see the cause as being the person/situation that is making us "wait and wait."
But as we turn our attention inwards that is when we will discover the deeper Cause of Impatience - The Rejection of the Present Moment.
Impatience In Depth
To understand Impatience in depth, one can look at how Impatience affects the state of Being Present. See Catalyst - Being Present if one wishes to learn more about the Present Moment.
Impatience basically is a Rejection of the Present Moment.
When we are impatient it is because we cannot accept the Present Moment / Present Self / Present Situation as is.
Why can't we accept the Present Moment as is?
Why can't we simply accept that we are going to be late to the meeting?
Why cannot we accept the fact that something will require a long time to do.
To understand the deeper Causes of impatience we have to look at impatience at the level of Our Reactions.
And what we will find is that whenever we are experiencing impatience, we are in a state of negative reaction towards what we are currently experiencing i.e. towards the person/situation which has made us wait.
And it is through developing the Knowing of why we are generating these Negative Reactions that we can find out the reasons as to why we are impatient - and the reasons can be many.
I.e. it may be because we believe that the situation "should be" a certain way.
It may be because we believe that the person "should be" a certain way, i.e. not to waste our time, to speak faster, to do things quicker and so forth.
Thus through impatience we can discover our many negativities.
That is why the moments of impatience are opportunities for us to develop the Knowing of our Sufferings even more.
Unfortunately most of turn away from these opportunities because the sensations that impatience brings can be too difficult to accept.
Importance Of Addressing Impatience
To address Impatience we have to first develop the motivation and intention to address it.
Thus let us look at the ways Impatience can limit our abilities to experience happiness in life.
When we are impatient, it can push us to do things "too quickly."
The following quote "Haste Creates Waste" holds much truth because what you will find that when you rush through things in life you will end up making mistakes and taking longer to complete that task.
Realize that when we complete tasks without impatience, rather with patience, the task will not only be able to be completed much more efficiently but at the same time the result will also be of a higher quality.
Impatience can also create hatred within towards the situations/people that bring out the impatience within us.
Often when we have strong issues with impatience we can start imagining the character of the person who has made us wait.
I.e. "They don't care about us, they have forgotten the arrangement, they are lying to us" and so forth and similarly towards the situations that are holding us back i.e. "Why is my day going so bad, why did God give me such bad luck, this is going to take forever!"
Thus the inner frustrations caused by Impatience is plenty.
So as one looks back at the quality of the Mind when one has experienced impatience, one will realize that the Mind was an Over-Reacting Mind. The experience of impatience can make us see the world in a negative light. It can be difficult to realize this in the moment of impatience because the mind can convince us of all sorts of nasty things - and often what we will be left with is anger, frustration and a lot of imagination.
To address Impatience we have to also realize that we all have impatience to one degree or another. Most people often think they are patient just because they can "endure" the negative reactions within or that they are always "Acting" patiently.
But as long as you experience even a tiny/slight sense of Negative Sensations from being impatient then you are Impatient. It is by being aware that you have even the tiniest amount of negativities so that you can address the issues of Impatience entirely.
Of course Enduring the Negative Reactions and observing it as is, and not letting your impatience blow out of proportions will help you greatly with developing Stillness of the Mind. But to fully transform and release it we need to penetrate into it so that we can find the deeper Causes of our Impatience.
And that will take us to discover the Negative Ideas.
Path Of Creator
Impatience In Relation To The Path Of Creator
The Seed Cause of all forms of Sufferings are the Negative Ideas.
So let us look at the relationship between Impatience and the Negative Ideas.
When we are experiencing Impatience, we are experiencing Negative Reactions towards the Present Moment. And as we develop the Knowing of these Negative Reactions deeper and deeper what we will discover is that these Negative Reactions are driven by Negative Ideas.
I.e. when we are waiting for the bus to arrive for ages and ages we may begin to experience all sorts of Negative Ideas surfacing in the Mind.
"The bus should arrive on time/It is not ok to not be on time"
"The bus driver should not be late/It is not ok to not do one's jobs properly"
Or when we experience Impatience with trying to teach our relatives how to drive, we can experience all sorts of Negative Ideas in the deeper mind such as -
"Why is this person so stupid/It is not ok to be stupid"
"Why is this person not listening to me/It is not ok for people to ignore me"
"Why am I wasting my time with you/it is not ok for my time to be wasted"
The State Of Impatience
Impatience thus can be said as the experience where you are forced to experience the Negative Ideas surfacing, but lacking the means to get out of the experience.
Usually most of us would choose the option to run away from our Negative Reactions whenever we experience them but impatience is a bit special because the moments when we experience impatience are moments when we are given little opportunities to run away from it.
When we experience impatience, we are stuck with the situation we do not like..
So from a spiritual perspective, when we experience impatience, we are actually in a situation where we have no choice but to face our Negativities. Impatience thus is a great opportunity for us to discover our Negativities and to develop the Deeper Knowing of it.
Thus if one wishes to learn more about one's Negativities one can simply do things which one finds impatient and try to stay in that experience while trying to pull oneself into a state of Stillness.
And when through that Stillness, one can ask the question of "What is not ok?" to discover the Negative Ideas. After the Negative Ideas are discovered one can then go on a journey to discover the reasons as to why one is so attached to these Negative Ideas, i.e. "Why can I not accept that person/bus for who he/she is if he/she is stupid/slow? etc.
The Spiritual Lessons that one can go through to Catalyze the Knowing / Transformation is to realize that what we cannot accept in Other Selves will always reflect back to what we cannot accept in Ourselves.
Develop Experienced Knowledge
Whenever you experience impatience, i.e. an urge to rush things through or an urge to try to control other people or the outer situation so you can get out of the terrible sensations that comes with impatience, simply stay in those moments and try your best to observe these physical sensations with a calm Mind.
Then ask yourself the following questions -
"What is it that I cannot accept in this situation?"
"Why can I simply not be happy in this Present Moment?"
"What is it that I cannot accept about the other person and how does this reflect back to myself?"
The Creator's Meditation / VipassanaLink here
In meditation, you are stuck in a position where there is nowhere to go but to face all the Negative Ideas that surface in the consciousness.
Thus such a situation will bring out waves of impatience. What you are experiencing are actually waves of negativities coming from the Negative Ideas surfacing from the mind.
Simply try to pull yourself into a state of Stillness each time you experience negativity in your meditation, this is how you develop Self-Acceptance which can transform the negativities that are happening from within. By telling yourself that you rather be happy and calm and accepting rather than reacting negatively to the practice you are in fact transforming the old habit patterns of the mind.
Know and Transform The Self!
The best way to develop patience is through the practice of meditation!
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