"Our Vulnerability Lies Behind The Masks That We Wear"
We will all experience vulnerability at some point in our life. Vulnerability is the state of mind which can make us feel alone and powerless as if there are no one there to support us.
The experience of vulnerability usually happens in times when we feel that we have been rejected by others, or a situation that has made us reject and criticize ourselves, i.e. a business failure, a performance failure and so forth.
Vulnerability In Depth
When we lack love towards ourselves we will tend to fill the emptiness by reaching out for love from others.
From a spiritual perspective, the lack of love we have towards ourselves points to the weaknesses that we have to work on. From a higher perspective, this is the Greater Work - which is to strengthen what we are weak in.
Without being aware of that the cause of the state of Vulnerability comes from within rather than from outside, we can miss the greater work by trying to address the issues outwardly, i.e. trying to change people's opinions about us or to avoid the people and situations that make us vulnerable
When we cry, when we are angry, when we are unhappy, these are all signs that that we need to fill the lack of love from within. These are the “vulnerable sides” of The Self which needs to be strengthened.
But instead of strengthening them, usually we would try not to see this “ugly” side or let other people see it.
However, there are some of us who are not afraid to show vulnerability, and those who are not afraid will progress on the path quicker because when one is able to express one's emotions without hesitation one will be able to build a closer relationship to one's own thoughts and emotions. To strengthen a weakness will always requires one to first accept and embrace the truth that there is something there that needs to be addressed.
However, there will be some people who will need greater strength to show the vulnerable side of themelves, to show their negative side, to show the true self that is smiling upside down.
Honesty is the quickest way to restablish the connection with one's inner world. If one wishes to build a relationship of honesty within one's inner world then one can learn to show their vulnerable sides outwards more and more.
Importance Of Addressing Vulnerability
When we fear about showing our vulnerable sides it can create suffering states of the mind. For instance, we can become angry at someone when they unveil the mask we carry to hide our vulnerability. We can even get angry at ourselves when we get into an embarrassing situation where our negative reactions are put on display for the world to see.
Are you often scared of expressing your desires to others?
When we fear being vulnerable we may act invulnerable. Thus we can create a persona where we appear to be highly confident and play that role for the rest of our life. Conversely we may even come to the belief that we are Strong even though our Reactions say otherwise. The more we bury ourselves deeper in the masks we wear the more effort it will take us to unveil and accept our true self – the vulnerable face that is behind those masks. It's important to simply be honest so that one can begin the work of Self-Transformation, otherwise much of the time can be wasted in "acting" rather than transforming.
Are you afraid of letting other people know that you are angry or hurt?
Path Of Creator
Vulnerability In Relation To The Path Of Creator
The journey begins first with understanding that there is nothing wrong with hiding one's vulnerability, but there is also nothing wrong with showing one's vulnerability as well - the latter will also help one to accelerate their journey of Self-Transformation.
The journey is more about developing honesty, to accept the parts of the self that is vulnerabile. And this is done through developing the knowing of oneself through observing one's inner reactions rather than the Ideas of what one should be.
The Path is accelerated as one learns to show one's vulnerable side for the world to see because through the attempt of doing so one will discover the inner-resistances, the fears within oneself that prevents one from doing so. Thus it is through such that we can uncover deeper fears and issues that are waiting to be addressed.
Generally speaking, as one works on their fears one will experience less and less vulnerability. The more one addresses the suffering states of the mind the more one will be able to feel confident and strong naturally.
The destination is towards being The Self as is.
"It is not ok to be weak/vulnerable"
Let us look at one of the possible Negative Ideas which can contribute to the state of Vulnerability.
"It is not ok to be weak/vulnerable"
--->I reject myself and others when I am/they are weak/vulnerable
= There will be fear when I appear weak/vulnerable because it is not ok.
For the mind which carries the negative declaration, the person will tend to fear showing the vulnerable side of oneself. The Self which has become attached to such Negative Idea can also reject other people who appear "vulnerable." So there can be a tendancy for the person to be always acting strong and courageous out of the fear that other people would judge him/her in the same way.
The journey of developing Self-Acceptance is about transforming the Negative Idea from "It is not ok to be weak/vulnerable" -> "It is ok to be weak/vulnerable"
The transition towards the positive declaration progresses with the kind of experiences which will make the Self realize that it is ok to be vulnerable. Bring around other selves who are not afraid to hide their vulnerability and who are honest with expressing their raw thoughts and reactions will greatly assist one in their journey of Self-Transformation. Because by observing that these vulnerable selves also have friends and are loved by others will help one to realize that it is ok to be vulnerable.
To accelerate the journey one can simply try to be more honest with one's own true feelings and thoughts and practice Self-Acceptance and forgiveness towards others when they are also doing the same thing.
Thus it will be a journey of developing Two-Way Acceptance.
The journey is balanced through moving also towards the opposite declaration - "It is ok to be strong / confident"
Develop Experienced Knowledge
Simply try to express yourself honestly in your conversations with people and observe the inner resistance that surfaces within to develop the Knowing as to why the negativities are there.
The Creator's Meditation / VipassanaLink here
When you meditate you are actually experiencing the reactions happening inside yourself at its rawest state. Sometimes it can be a painful experience especially when the Negative Ideas surfaces. But by simply Accepting them and not trying to diminish or exaggerating it, we are learning to accept that vulnerable side of ourselves. And what one will observe that through Acceptance, rather than reacting to the reactions, the pain will slowly disappear.
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